Today we have a guest post from Bryan Cohen along with a wonderful giveaway. I am currently reading The Post-College Guide to Happiness and really recommend this book. This is your opportunity to read more about it and get a copy for yourself.
Welcome, Bryan! Take it away...
Bryan Cohen here, guest poster and author, promoting my new book The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I'm giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.
"This is my 'depressed stance.' When you're depressed, it makes a lot of difference how you stand. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and hold your head high because then you'll start to feel better. If you're going to get any joy out of being depressed, you've got to stand like this."
- Charles M. Schulz
Oh, Charlie Brown. You and your wisdom know no bounds. I know exactly what Charles Schultz is saying through his titular character as I used to have a major issue with what I'll calling "depressing myself." I used to get down on myself if I didn't feel I'd done a good enough job with my art, my work, my relationship and my life. Beating myself up like that is a trend in my family and I just assumed that no matter what I did, I'd always find some kind of fault with it.
I wasn't content just being upset though. I really wanted to put some of my weight behind it. I'd slouch and frown and really make my best effort to feel crappy. I'm not sure what caused me to want to feel worse, but I was darn good at it. I would look at myself in the mirror, all hunched over and teary-eyed and I would think to myself what a sad sack I appeared to be.
And then oxygen happened.
No, not the television channel geared toward women's soap operas, but oxygen, the thing we use to breath. I had read a few books that gave the advice of finding out your typical habits when you get depressed and putting an end to the chain wherever you can find it. By breaking up the way you beat yourself up, you'll stop the habit and eventually train yourself out of it. How did I begin my depression spiral that could make me feel awful for days on end? I would hold my breath.
Nowadays, I still have my down times, but whenever I feel it turning into something more, I know that it's best to sit or stand up straight, take in a deep breath, close my eyes and wait until the negative feeling passes. I don't have to let it linger or take me over. I just have to breathe it away.
How do you sink yourself into your own pity parties? The next time you feel yourself starting to sink into a bad mood, try to figure out your routine. How can you stop the bad times from coming before they even start? In most cases, closing the eyes and taking a deep breath might be all you need. Maybe you need some fresh air and to let the sunlight hit your face. Whatever it is that you're used to in making yourself grumpy, snap yourself out of it to more happy and healthy moments.
Thank you for sharing with us today, Bryan. Learn more about the giveaway and Bryan below:
Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour. All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness. Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.
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Feel free to follow along with the tour at The Happiness Blog Tour Hub Page.